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Now our children are grown up should I leave my abusive, alcoholic husband? – The Sun

DEAR DEIDRE: WHEN I question my husband about his drinking, he just says: “Why should I change? This is me.”

He’s an alcoholic and in denial about his drinking.

I have always coped. I’ve needed to for the sake of our kids.

They are grown up now but have seen and heard far too much. I feel lost and wonder how I’ll manage with this into old age.

My husband is 62 and I’m 59. We’ve been married for 33 years.

The signs were there at the beginning but I was desperate to have a settled family life, as I’d not had a great childhood.

My husband has been physically aggressive in the past.

It’s just verbal now but always very hurtful. I am starting to think I must get out of this situation.

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DEIDRE SAYS: Nothing will change until your husband admits he has an alcohol problem.

Maybe he first drank to blot out emotional pain but the addiction itself quickly becomes the problem.

It is time to look after your own welfare.

And get support through Al-Anon, who help the partners and families of those with a drink problem (al-anonuk. org.uk, 0800 0086 811).