A COUPLE told how they intend to 'marry' their joint girlfriend of two years in lockdown – on their 17th wedding anniversary.
Stay-at-home husband Jon Kaufman, 45, and midwife wife Melanie Kaufman, 41, plan to tie the knot with shared girlfriend Judy Bame, 36, on May 24 in their back garden.
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The ‘throuple’, who’ve lived together outside Denver, Colorado, for a year-and-a-half, met 11 years ago while playing roller derby and realised they had instant chemistry.
But at the time, marketing manager Judy was with another man.
So it wasn’t until 2018 that they could get together, and they eventually confessed their true feelings.
Now their relationship is strong – and the sex is amazing.
They share a bed, with Jon sleeping in the middle
“The sex is far above average,” said Melanie. “There's more to touch, more to look at, and more sensations to experience. Plus, Jon has to be quite a machine to satisfy two women every time.
“We're also very open with our bodies and our interests, which leads to a very fulfilling sex life.
“We make every reasonable effort to include all three of us every time, but if that's not possible, there's no jealousy as long as it's inside our relationship.
“Some throuples have open relationships, but we're a closed triad and we view ourselves as like a regular couple, just with more people.”
Their relationship became official when Judy – having split with her boyfriend – found herself living back in Colorado and looking Jon and Melanie up in her contacts.
She said: “When we met up after all those years, it was immediately apparent that our feelings were the same that they had always been, only now without complications.
“The transition to a throuple was very natural and organic. This type of relationship happens much like any other with all of the tingles and eager anticipation. Since then, we've been inseparable.”
The sex is far above average. There's more to touch, more to look at, and more sensations to experience.
Melanie’s parents support their relationship, but unfortunately neither Jon or Judy’s do. “It has been very hard to feel like we're choosing between our relationship and our parents,” the pair said.
Meanwhile, friends' reactions have been mixed.
Jon explained: “We have a very supportive friendship group including another throuple.
“However the number of close friends that we keep is very small.
“Other friends we have known for years have become quiet and distant since we've been public about our relationship. None of those old friends have confronted us or been negative, but they don't treat us the same way either.
"We've since curated our friendships to only those that have positive feelings about us as a triad.”
The throuple joked lockdown was an ‘improvement’ to their normal life.
The ladies jointly said: “Jon’s always at home and now his ladies get to spend more time at home as well.”
Jon added: “Judy is on leave for the foreseeable future and stays home with me. Melanie, as a healthcare provider, has had her daily life rocked the hardest. Her schedule changes on a daily basis and she's having to give some prenatal visits over the phone now.
"At one point, Melanie's clinic was closed for two weeks due to two employees testing positive for COVID-19 and she had to work from home, which was a huge change.
“We haven't ventured out of the house too many times, just for groceries and other necessities.
“It also helps that we bought a hot tub right before quarantine, so we've kind of turned our home into its own resort.”
Melanie, Jon and Judy were planning to 'marry' at a hot springs resort in the mountains of Colorado and honeymoon in St Lucia.
“But now, we're scrapping all our plans and having a small backyard wedding instead.”
Unfortunately, as no Western country permits statutory marriage between more than two people, the wedding won’t be legally binding.
“But what we can do is set up our relationship like a business, since there are more legal protections that way,” Melanie said.
Jon has to be quite a machine to satisfy two women every time.
“We won't receive the same innate government privileges and protections as married couples and will have to take extra steps to legally safeguard our relationship.
“When we first defined our relationship in the summer of 2018, we felt like we were in uncharted territory and would often wonder, ‘Are they looking at us?’ when we went out together.
“But seeeing other throuples, quads, and all the possible polyamorous combinations representing themselves online really helped reassure us that while we're different, we're also valid.
“Growing up with monogamy as the only option, it has taken self-growth to unlearn those old restrictions, but doing so has led to an amazing experience.
“Going from a monogamous relationship to a throuple is incredibly rewarding, but also requires extra effort and attention.
“We get many questions from people interested in opening up their marriage.
"What you need to know is that everything is exponentially multiplied with each person you add to the relationship. You have more people to care for you, and also to care for.
“It requires a constant stream of love and communication for everyone involved. Polyamory/polygamy isn't for everyone, but it is a valid lifestyle and one that can be overwhelmingly amazing.”
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